I personally don't pay much attention to weight. I usually don't even pack my backpack until I get to the trail. So I have no clue how much it weighs. I totally understand the light weight thing though, and I can go light weight when I know its necessary. A lot of times it just depends on the trip. And the reality is most of the gear I'm using is pretty light weight as it is.
But I like being comfortable, especially since I spend a lot of time out there. I usually bring a pillow. A real full size pillow. My journal weighs 5 pounds easily. And I usually just throw a glass jar of pesto sauce into my food bag. I've been cold, wet, and hungry one to many times. So I bring extra stuff. I'm used to it.
Back in the late 2000's, I didn't have much money. I wanted to backpack my summers instead of working. So I couldn't afford to buy new gear, and had to go with what I had. I had this old (and awesome) North Face 3 man Expedition 25 4 season tent. The thing was double walled, and bomb proof. It also weighed close to 10 pounds. It was the only tent I had that didn't leak. So I lugged that thing around with me everywhere, all over Glacier and Yellowstone. People would see me next to it, and ask where the rest of my group was.
The Expedition 25 tent I used to carry.
Some people really get into gear, and others don't. Nothing wrong with either. And I don't really care too much about what gear others are using, or what cars they drive to the trailhead in. I will usually ask someone I see about something they're using if its something I'm interested in. And I always talk to people if they are friendly. But I definitely don't seek out people in the backcountry, or even try to have conversation.
I just go with the flow. If I see people and they don't see me, I most often times avoid them all together. I also usually let them do all the talking. I've definitely hidden (or maybe stayed out of sight is a better word) from people just to avoid interaction.
I say all this, but just know I would definitely take something lighter if I can.
In the end, you will remember the stories, not the gear. Unless of course its a story of bringing too much gear.